help

Asking for help

As someone who is rather shy when it comes to talking to strangers, asking for help can be quite an unpleasant experience. Often, I choose to just skip asking for help and attempt to solve whatever issue I have by myself. In trying to not look stupid, I did probably the most stupid thing you can ever do when you need help. Not asking for it. Think of the time and effort I could have saved if I opened my mouth and ask.

Most people are willing to offer their knowledge and expertise if you ask nicely. We inherently love to share things with others. Those that don't are often shunned and avoided. It's okay if someone refuse to help you. You just need to ask someone else.

The most important about getting help from others is that you get to learn from their experience. There's no reason to make the same mistake by yourself to learn from it. You can learn by asking too.

You want to learn from experience, but you want to learn from other people’s experience when you can. - Warren Buffet

Obviously, you can't rely on others all the time. At the end of the day, you still have to do the hard part yourself. But it can make things easier and it doesn't hurt to ask. Just remember to show your gratitude and offer help to those who need them.

Can't sleep?

I have problems falling asleep every night as I take at least 30 minutes before i wander off to dreamland. Here are some tips from Nancy Rothstein, author of best-selling children’s book My Daddy Snores, and co-creator of The Sleep Radio Show. These are taken directly from this article on GOOD.

  1. Unplug early. Avoid the computer, television, or cell phone before you hit the the sheets. These electronic devices stimulate your body, which is exactly what you don’t want before you start counting sheep.
  2. Paint it black. Does the outdoor city light bother you? Does the morning sunlight wake you up earlier than you would like? Invest in black-out curtains, or get eyeshades. Eliminate other light sources, such as your LED alarm clock display or the glare of a computer screen—which should be off at night anyway!
  3. Have a routine. Try to get to bed at the same time everyday—even on the weekends. Sticking to a schedule helps your body reinforce regular sleep. This is especially important for children, as irregular and inefficient sleep can have harmful consequences on their development.
  4. Just say no. Contrary to popular belief, drinking right before bedtime will not aid your sleep. Try to avoid drinking three to four hours before you go to bed. Avoid caffeine and nicotine for at least eight to nine hours before bedtime.
  5. Ritualized relaxation. Some good pre-bedtime activities: taking a warm bath, listening to soothing music, reading a book, or just sitting quietly with dim lighting. Nancy even recommends doing a yoga pose called the child’s pose on your bed before going to sleep.
  6. Don’t push it. If you can’t fall asleep within 15 to 20 minutes, get up and do something until you feel tired. Practice breathing exercises until you feel tired enough to fall asleep. Try organizing your room, solving a jigsaw puzzle, or listening to soothing music.
  7. Beds are for sleeping. Do you live in a small apartment? Tempted to use the bed as a work desk or a couch? Don’t. Make sure your bed is for sleeping only. No exceptions.